Are You Still Bitter?

“Some people are so broken, they get mad at you for being whole” – Unknown 

 

How many things can you look back on in your life and get angry or sad?  You know, the missed opportunities and poor decisions that took  you way off the mark, or perhaps it was indecisiveness or procrastination that seemingly held you hostage from your ideal paths and goals. 

To be more specific, how about a relationship that went sour after years of your time, investment and commitment, only to see your life partner walk away.  Or perhaps you were the one to leave the relationship to try to salvage any dignity that remained in you, after realizing you had been betrayed by the one who claimed to love you with all their heart and soul.  Or like the old cliché, you grew a part  and found yourself more empty being together than you did alone. 

There is no question that we can all fill in the blanks with a laundry list of disappointments that have filled our lives over the years.  Perhaps some were avoidable, while others required a bit more maturity that you simply did not have at your disposal at the time.  So you made your choices with what you knew and understood, and whether wrong, right or indifferent those decisions currently shape the world you live in today. 

Seeing that I can relate to all the above and more, I have learned it is what we do during calamity that defines us, and how we respond cannot be mistaken and is seldom debatable.  This defining moment reaches to the fabric of our being and is a great opportunity to expose our true hearts, intentions and motivations.  Very rarely is it a feel good session for the one being exposed, even if only to one’s self. 

So what do you find ourselves doing after the dust has settled, your separate lives have went on, and the emotional distress of the moment has long faded away?  Have you become bitter, distrustful and suspicious of all those that merely represent the one(s) who hurt you, or are you learning to grow, embrace truth and live a new and better life? 

I wish it were as simple as typing these words down, but unfortunately it is much more difficult and complex than that.  And in many instances it requires support from outside sources, uncomfortable transparency and a decision to live a different kind of life.  One that allows time for introspection, reflection, meditation, submission, prayer and self-analysis.  All things that cause us to slow down, to allow us at some point to go fast, however with much more wisdom, empathy and integrity. 

It is indeed the journey of life, for those that choose to go down that path.  A journey that will not only enrich our own lives, but the lives we touch as well.  The hardships of our past can become lessons we share with others that choose to listen.  Our growth will teach us to no longer exude energy on what we cannot change, or the people who remain angry and point fingers at us.  Our focus is only on what lies before us.  Our past pains will remind us of what can potentially happen, however our new identity sees past the negative images and helps us to navigate towards what is better and full of life. 

So if you are still looking back on your life and becoming disheartened when you do, don’t you think it is time to embrace a new way?  Life is truly too short to remain mad, hurt and perpetually disappointed, however it is never too late to make a new declaration.  A declaration that opens the door to peace, hope and joy.  

 

Keep Pressing,

Hank G

 

 

 

 

 

Author: Hank

Twice-divorced, single father of 3. I love to write, share ideas and listen to people. I'm transparent to a fault and love to learn through authentic and intimate conversation. I'm no stranger to pain and loss, but through the struggle I have learned a great deal about me and what's truly important. That is to love fearlessly and to be loved in return in a meaningful way. I love good music and how it takes me to a place... Life is good.

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