“It’s never to late to be what you might have been.” – George Eliot
I’ve written so many post regarding the propensity for people to become their own worst enemy. Unfortunately it’s usually the path of least resistance. How many times (a day) will you doubt yourself, find a back door to escape to or simply give up prematurely? Whether it’s about losing weight, maintaining a healthy relationship, or remaining focused when it matters the most, we often find ourselves struggling along to make the ends meet.
For what? Is it something we’re trying to prove to our best friend, society at large or ourselves? Perhaps at times it’s a combination of them all, but my main concern is why? Why do we care, and why are “others” able to tap into our psyches and distort the visions and ideas we have for our lives and future?
The answer – because we care. We care about the thoughts that infiltrate the minds of those we respect and love, because their ideas carry weight with us. They influence us directly or indirectly, whether we care to admit it or not. So why are we so afraid to admit that? Because in some ways it makes us seem weak and vulnerable. Well I’ll admit to the vulnerable part, but weak – not in the slightest.
To the contrary, our ability and choice to become transparent is a strength that is still misunderstood in my opinion, but societal pressures still cause many to succumb to the fear of “what if.” What if I take a stand and fail? What if I choose a different or unpopular route and fail? What if I’m the only one that stands for a particular thing or person and everyone seems to be against me?
There will always be many reasons to doubt our choices, ourselves and what we truly believe, so how do we find the strength and courage to stand, despite the prolific negativity that plagues our minds and spirits?
My answer – believe in something greater than yourself. Believe in something that you may never witness in your lifetime, but nonetheless contribute towards its progress and potential to become actualized. Believe in yourself enough to know that the aforementioned is warranted and a valid pathway for others to follow long after you’re gone.
I wish I could say that I have all the answers for this topic, but I realize I am only skimming the surface. I am one, yet with many thoughts that reach the heavens as your’s does. One person may not change the world alone, but their thoughts and ideas can. But only if their explored, realized and believed in. First you must believe in yourself enough to think it’s even relevant. Relevant enough to declare it to the world, relevant enough to know that it matters now, and relevant enough to squash the fears that says it doesn’t.